A lot of people have different views on child support. Some people think that its a good idea, while other thinks that it does more harm to the father than good, because he has to give most of his earnings to the mother. But what about the mother having to give most of her earnings for most of the bills???? Nobody ever takes into consideration how much a mother has to spend on her kids. Here where I live, the minimum amount a man has to pay(if he has no job) is $40/weekly. Are you serious????? $40...Is that all that they think it takes to support a child? I went to Walmart today just to buy my 2 kids underwear, t-shirts, and socks. And I tell you no lie...It all came up to $40.27. I spent $40 in 30 minutes. With those $40, I did not get any shoes, shirts, pants, hats(it's winter time), or food ,which are all necessities. They actually think that women can take care of a child with $40. But, wait , I'm not finished....I haven't even said anything about the light bill that has to stay on for the kids, or the rent for them to have somewhere to stay, or the extra things they need for school, or the gas to take them back and forth to daycare/school, or even the daycare costs.
I'm not saying that I feel men should send a check large enough to pay all of the mothers' bills. But, I do think that if the women is gonna pay all of the bills to provide food and shelter, then the father can at least buy all of the necessities that the kids need. But that's just my opinion.
While I'm on the child support subject, this post would not be complete unless I shared with you what a wonderful present my son's father gave him for Christmas /his birthday(his bday is in December) ...Guess what it was ?????? A nice big $25 check. YAYYYYYYYYYY
I still cannot believe that he had the audacity to send that check. I know some people will say
"Well at least you are getting something"but they don't understand that this man has money! He has enough money to pay what the judge orders him. He just chooses not to. He has all kinda of income coming in, but he does not feel that my son deserves it for some reason.
Oh Well...
I came across a post today about a Prosecuter giving deadbeat parents one last chance to pay up
"If they ignore us, we issue a warrant of arrest and we have them placed in jail. I will then request that the judge set a bond not less than the amount that is owed"
Why when things like this gets enforced, it never happens where I live???
The city I live in has something similar. If a father goes to court and does not have any money to give the mother right then and there, then he has to pay random small amounts like $55, or $1500, and they have to pay the full amount 'cash'. More than likely a girlfriend or family members pays it,then he gets bailed out, then gets missing, and then theres no way to find him to bring him back to court. I would love for my county to have this law. I am owed more than $8,000. I pray that the day comes when I'm in court with my son's father.the judge looks at him and says, "Bond set at $8,000."
3 comments:
I like your blog and as a new mom I have a lot of respect for single parents that raise their children well. I'm not a single parent and sometimes I wonder how you guys do it. Keep up the good work!
I found you through link referral. I just wanted to say that, my sister had a dead beat father. She hates his guts now. He had the money to give to my stepmom but he didn't. He had the money to come see her whenever he wanted. He didn't. He would call and say he couldn't make this or that. He showed up to her high school graduation and hit on her aunt the whole time. He was awful. He is in his third divorce now. My sister has brothers and sisters that she doesn't even know
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